People often say things along the lines of "I won't judge you, I'm not like that." I would personally think of this as a lie. They will most likely be judging you in their head, either positivly or negitivly, who knows? Obviously, apart from them, unless they are open and honest with you... I will be open and say, I judge people! Not in a mean way normally.. I try not too anyway.
Before judging someone I will find something in common with them: Music taste, Film Genres, Preferred sports, Hobbies, opinons on things, etc. Obviously, if they like Channing Tatum and Alex Pettyfer, we can be best friends. Same goes with Keith Lemon and Lee Evans. They are all beautiful, entertainment, comedy wise. - Just so my friends don't read that wrong, COMEDY WISE.
My mother is the complete opposite, along with my two aunts. They all like, sorry, LOVE Colin Firth. I'm not too sure about him.. I've seen basically every film with him in and by far Bridget Jones' Diary was the best film. Sorry, I shouldn't be going on about films/guys..
So, back to judging. Is it positive or negative? Whilst writing this, I currently have my friend peering over my shoulder - Sorry, by my side. - reading everything (apparently correcting me also, I would class it as moaning, personally) She says that judging people is a mix of both positive and negative feelings, I would be agreeing with this point. You judge somone so quickly without even stopping to think as to what made someone like the way they are. Maybe there's a reason as to why they are more of a closed off person, maybe there's a reason as to why they are confident more than others, maybe there's simply a reason as to why they are more clingy than others. Realising this, I have tried to stop judging people as quickly, I will stay as mutual as possible with people until I know them well enough. I wouldn't want to be judged as quickly, I'm pretty sure you wouldn't either... unless you enjoy it. Well, just think about it, I would say.
~Soph.
